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Showing posts with label blog. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Update: 17 months

I haven't been updating this blog, and I fear that I'm kinda done with it.  I no longer need it, since MCAD isn't defining Cupcake's life the way I feared it would.  Our life situation has changed, with moving, I'm going back to work, etc.   Though I want to throw out the occasional update, because I've noticed people who google MCADD end up here, so I want to put out good vibes on the Internet.

Cupcake is now 17 months and she's walking, climbing, and starting to talk.  She plays with crayons, blocks and looooves reading books. Also, her latest obsession is babying her stuffed animals, she holds them, tries to feed them and walks them on her doll stroller.  It melts my heart.

She's also doing great health-wise.  At her 15 month check-up, she was at the 98% percentile for height, and over the charts for weight.  Because of that, we have been officially switched to low-fat (2%) dairy products.  We talked with our nutritionist, and we are on a heart-healthy diet, but  without any major restrictions beyond that.

Nutrition-wise, we have a little foodie.  Cupcake will try all sorts of new foods, and seems to have few texture problems.  Risottos, fish, soups, chicken, veggies, grilled meals, sandwiches, fruits, tacos, Thai, etc, she'll eat all of it.  Great for us, since we can cook one meal for the whole family.  We still stick by the old staples that she loves for snacks and lunch: bananas, blueberries, oranges, low-fat Greek yogurt, pita bread, turkey sandwiches on whole-wheat bread, cooked carrots, peas and bell peppers, chicken.  But she's cool when we want to try something else for dinner.  She's getting more opinionated about not wanting to sit on her high chair, but we're letting table manners slide.  It's more important that she eat a proper diet and develop varied taste buds.

On the breastfeeding front, we weaned at 16 months !  It was easier and harder than I was expecting, though one thing is for sure, it was the best thing for our family.  Cupcake now drinks cow's milk from a bottle.  We weren't able to transition her to a sippy cup, and thinking more about it, with her feeding requirements, we need her to still take a bottle at night.

We are still not taking L-carnitine.  Cupcake hated the taste (would violently reject it), and we had decided with our previous doctor to only take it when she was sick.  We've moved and have a new specialist in Texas, and on our first appointment he did full blood work.  Her numbers came out good (though she still has the genetic mutation for MCAD), so we concluded that she doesn't need any carnitine supplements.

We've made it 17 months without any ER visits or metabolic crises.  Luckily, Cupcake seems to have a tough immune system, and has managed to stay away from major illnesses.  To this day she's never had the stomach flu, RSV, or coxsackie, and for that, we're very grateful.  We take her out everywhere.  She's been in the NY subway several times, and goes to her fair share or playdates, library story times, grocery stores, etc.   We even took her abroad (more on that later).  We haven't done anything particular to protect her from germs, and we've been lucky that she's responded well.

Last month, we had our first ear infection.  Went to the doctor, who prescribed antibiotics, and commended us for catching it so early.  Nice.  She was on antibiotics for 10 days, and it was uneventful.  Her medicine tasted like bubble gum and she loved it; she'd even ask for more.   During this time, she didn't develop any major fevers, or have any appetite problems, so her MCAD was a non-issue.  Thank Dog.

Also, we have started part-time daycare.  The goal is to have her go full time eventually, but baby steps.  My main concern was how seriously they would take her feeding requirements (since MCAD sounds made up when you try to explain it, doesn't it?), and though the daycare was very accommodating and understanding, it took a few tries for all of us to be on the same page.  I had the daycare menu approved by our nutritionist.  The next issue is that in the toddler classroom, they expect kids to self feed.  Cupcake has been refusing to, so they have to spoon feed her.   I'm hoping she'll get the hang  of self-feeding soon, but currently our main concern is that she eat regularly.  It's one of those MCAD concessions, I guess.  We also send a banana daily in her bag in case she doesn't like the menu.  So far, they've had to give it to her a few times.
It's been quite a transition. Cucpake cried the first couple of weeks during drop-off   It broke my heart, but I knew it was a good place (I had personal references and just got a good vibe from the teachers). By now, 6 weeks into it, she's fine when we arrive, and is well rested and happy when I pick her up.  This decision has been good for our family, and she's learning new skills and socializing very well.   She's had a couple of colds and the aforementioned ear infection since she started, but that seems to be par with the course.


Her current sleep arrangement is a full-sized futon mattress in her bedroom floor, Montessori style.  This way, we can lay down next to her to help her fall asleep without braking our backs.  It's an in-between to co-sleeping. At night, we transitioned slowly to less feedings by gradually adding water to her bottles.  Cupcake has been cleared to go 8 hours at night without food, so we give her only water if she wakes before the 8 hour mark.  After the 8 hour mark, we give her some milk diluted with water.  The theory is that the water satisfies the sleep association and thirst, while slowly retraining the body's hunger cues.  I think this is why she STTNs some nights, but who knows for sure? 
When she's sick, we go ahead and give her some milk in her nighttime bottles, just to be on the safe side.

One last thing, Cupcake went on her first international trip to a South America!  The flight was exhausting (toddlers don't like staying on their seat), but she did very well during the actual stay.  We were visiting family, so we had lots of extra hands to keep her entertained and active.  Our concern was food, as lots of people get food poisoning when visiting South American countries.  It's just a fact, no judgment here.   We were extra careful to keep her away from uncooked foods, and poor Cupcake missed out on amazing tropical fruit and fresh fish.   Instead, she ate lots of chicken soups, cooked veggies, mostly homemade stuff, and what do you know, she never got sick.  I was still breastfeeding her then, so we knew that no matter what she'd have a calorie source at hand.  I'm really glad we were nursing, as there were many times we found ourselves with weird schedules because of all the family obligations, and I was able to keep her fed every 3 hours, no matter where we were (house, beach, park, car, etc).

Ok, this was way longer than I intended, but its been a while. 

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Updates

Life has been busy, and it's been a while since we've posted.  And I feel an overwhelming dread that there are just too many things I want to say and not enough time.  So I will paraphrase.

- Cupcake continues to do well, and is still growing and healthy.  Lately, she's been having some poop issues, which makes me think she might have more food aversions than we previously thought.  Related to MCAD?  Probably not, but worth keeping an eye on.

- We're between doctors, which I hate, but we moved twice in the last 3 months, which meant that her 12 month check up was with a doctor that we'll never see again.  Actually, we were willing to have her 15 month check up there, but apparently this doctor moved and left the practice.  The rest of the practice is too far for us to attend and meet a whole new doctor, so we're on a search for a new general pediatrician.  I don't like this, but it is what it is.

- We are also between Metabolic Specialists, which I like even less.  But we moved from Brooklyn in October, and the new specialist didn't have any available appointments until January, so in the meantime we have our emergency protocol letter and both doctors have told us to count them as the main resource.  Hopefully nothing will happen, and this will be remembered as just another snafu in our health coverage.

- Health coverage.  I seriously think nothing in my life will be as frustrating as trying to figure out the US health care system.  We've been royally f*cked one too many times, and we haven't even needed ER services yet.  At least it's all settled now.  Nate has a job, which provides full comprehensive coverage, and the last three months of COBRA, dealing with CHIP, and looking for private coverage will be but a terrible nightmare that happened some time in 2011.

-  I'm working again.  *Finally*  And even though it's only part-time right now, it's enough to afford to send Cupcake to daycare for a few days a week.  I'm looking forward to this, and I think she'll really enjoy the social interactions as well.   However, finding adequate daycare is a herculean task unto itself.  Is this just a standard issue in parenting, or am I being extra vigilant because of her MCAD?  I'll never know, I guess, this child is all I know on being a mom.

- We've been seeing a lot more family and it's great.  Lots more babysitting, and interactions with grandparents and aunts/uncles.  Cupcake loves the attention, and Nate and I are getting a much needed break.  I feel the light at the end of the tunnel in achieving more balance in my life.  Maybe I'll even start doing yoga again to regain my zen-ness.  Who know, stranger things have happened.

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Blog makeover

I've been trying to upkeep this blog, reformat it some, and figure out what to do with pictures.  Because, really, pictures are always better, but I still want to respect my child's privacy.   Anyway..

 I felt inspired by Dana's blog entry What Were We Thinking?: 10 tips for starting a blog. Not only did she make a pretty nice and clean list with blog starting tips, it also made me realize that my current comment section stinks.  Really, it does.  So I've installed, hopefully successfully, a new commenting software that should allow me to respond to people more efficiently.

Also, at some point I will figure out how to work the Blogher banner ad.  They say it's simple to install, but I beg to differ.  Of course, it doesn't help that we've been going through a baby nap crisis this week (more on that soon), so I'm short on Internet time.

Friday, July 15, 2011

Updating the blog

I'm redesigning the blog, so please forgive the crazy formatting issues for a couple of days here.  I'm trying to take it down while I reformat, but I'm not sure I'm doing it correctly.

HTML and graphic design are fun, so I might be putting way too much effort into this.  Time I don't have at the moment because I really should be doing dishes, cleaning the living room floor and updating my professional online portfolio.  Which is why the site might be wonky for a bit.

Thanks for your patience  :)

Sunday, June 19, 2011

I might be trying a new blogging style

I'm realizing that I'm not a good writer.  Not in the quality sense (though I am aware that my writing style would horrify my high school AP English teachers), but rather in the inspirational sense.  As in, I'm often not that inspired to sit down and blog.

Through the day, I have a constant commentary running through my head, and things I want to talk out, put down on paper/keyboard. But it's hard to find the time to finish a complete thought on the computer (specially now that one of my professional licensing exams is coming up).  But then I noticed that I'm very involved in the email threads for my mom group.  The difference?  Well, in addition to knowing in person most of the people in that group, it's also more of a Q&A environment. Someone has an issue and asks the group for feedback.  Sensing the immediate tangible concern, we answer our personal experience and what's working (or not working) for us.  There's an issue, there's something to write about.  None of this open ended essay-about-my-life trap I've been falling into with this blog.

So I've decided that I'm gonna pose certain questions to myself (most of which I will probably borrow from my mom group email threads) and answer them in this blog. Why here?  Well, it's hard to truly open up to fellow moms you know in person. At the end of the day, you don't want to look like the crazy mom who will still be dealing with diapers and rocking to sleep at age 8.  And since we are all so hard on ourselves, sometimes its hard to open up about how hard this really is,  or how intrinsically satisfying it can be.  At least it's hard to do it face  to face. Which is where a blog comes in, with it's layer of distance yet the promise of truth. 

Lets see if this experiment works.

Monday, May 16, 2011

On blogging

I'm wondering what direction this blog is going, as I don't seem to be writing with as much fervor as the beginning.  It's always like that, right?

When I first started, I wanted a place where I could sort out all my thoughts and fears associated with Cupcake's MCADD diagnosis.  I was exhausting Nate with all my freak outs, my over analysis of her schedule, my tireless googling of information, and I wanted a safe haven where I could. Just. Vent.  Also, I began to realize that there were very few happy MCAD stories out on the internet, and I'd found barely two blogs that mentioned having a diagnosed child.  Actually, there were some happy stories on the FOD Support groups, but they were these paragraph long blurbs of kids that were still doing well (as opposed to the stories of children who had succumbed to undiagnosed MCADD).  I wanted to see blogs of people going about their menial lives, dealing with a metabolic conditions yet grappling with regular parenting decisions.  So I took Ghandi's advice (be the change you want to see in the world), and made my own blog.

Of course Ghandi was talking about much larger issues, and this is just me venting out on the internet, but a girl can dream, right?

Nate doesn't want me to use our real names or post pictures.  I understand where he's coming from, since it should be Cupcake's decision to share her medical information on the internet.  However, this places me at a slight disadvantage if I use this blog as a networking tool.  Other people post photos, and I feel like I'm being standoffish by not reciprocating.  Is this why I'm having a harder time building my own online community?  Or am I just not reaching out enough?  And do I even want to?  I feel strange commenting on people's blogs if I haven't met them in person, or reaching out to them when I'm withholding images of ourselves.  But I'm also not comfortable broadcasting personal information to the world.  I'm very private, yet I'm blogging.  How does that work?

I want to keep writing.  Even though as time goes on, MCAD feels less and less like a pressing issue.  Which makes me wonder if I should just make this a document of Cupcake's first years, or if I should stay within the filter of our lives through her metabolic condition.  Either way it's serving it's purpose.

I know some people are finding the blog from googling MCADD.  I hope this can help you see how our family is dealing with it, and how "normal" our lives can be. 

Sunday, March 6, 2011

New blog format

There.  I did it.  I moved over to Blogger, where the grass is indeed greener.  

Nate has been strangely supportive of my re-hauling of this blog, as he's usually more reticent of too much internet.  In all honesty, I'm anti-internet too, but I think that we all need an outlet from life when it begins to get overwhelming.  i mean,   I could talk his ear off with everything going on in my head, or I can write it down here, and still talk to him for hours, but not as much.

Hopefully this platform will be everything people say it is.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

and now with baby

Since I last wrote on this blog, lots of things have happened.  For starters, we got into the second trimester, then the third, then went into labor, delivered a baby, recovered, and am now enjoying a wonderful 7 week old baby girl.

I have a lot of things running through my head regarding motherhood, medical care, labor and the path to parenting.  I'm hoping this blog can once again serve as a sounding board for all things related to our little cupcake.

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Starting out

About two and a half weeks ago, we took a pregnancy test and realized, to our total joy and surprise, that we were pregnant. We decided to name the zygot cupcake. First of all, it sounds much more poetic than zygot or embryo, and also, Nate's nickname for Natalia is Babycakes, so it would seem fitting that a babycake would have a cupcake in its belly.

We decided to start a blog to document the scary, amazing, overwhelming, and crazy experience that is becoming parents. We hope to include here things we find out about pregnancy itself, and infant care, our feelings regarding the issues, our symptoms, and hopefully someday look back and remember how young and innocent we were then